What is your love language?

Love languages, blogging, relationship

Well, this week I was finding bit difficult to choose the topic for writing the blog post. Finally I came up with an idea to write about LOVE,something which everyone is looking for in this world.

What is love ????

LOVE has always been the most difficult word to describe but yes, the best feeling which immediately changes your inner and outer environment. Nothing seems good without it. A world without love means an ocean without water. Not only human beings but all the the living creatures are  looking for it badly.

Do we express our love in a right way???

We have different ways to show are love for othets. Does the feeling you want to show are being correctly understood by othet person ? I doubt.

Sometimes, in our life a situation comes when we do our best to make our loved ones happy but the result comes out as a zero. Our attempt to make other person feel wanted and loved failed.We feel depressed and sad.

Why do we fail to understand the love expressed by others?

The answer to this question lies in the following examples.

● A wife cooks a special dish for the husband  on their anniversary. He tastes it and praises her but the wife is not happy??? Poor husband is not able to understand ! He has appreciated her efforts but she is reacting like this ???The reason being here that she was expecting a gift , may be a smaller one, on that particular day as her way to show love.(Gifts- a language of love for her)

Take one more example,

● Today is Janith’s mom’s birthday. She brings a beautiful bouquet and a dress of her choice to give her as a surprise. The mother is not happy????

The reason , she was not looking for the gift rather she wanted to spent some hours with her. ( A quality time – a language of love for her)

In both the cases, the language of love was different. The language of love for Janith was giving and receiving gift while for the mother was a quality time. Both were not able to understand the language of each other,both were not happy despite being putting efforts.

Same is the case in all the relationships. Most of the times we fail to understand the language of our partner, a friend, our children in our busy life. There is always a possibility that you language of love is different from the other person. You are expressing your love by giving gifts but the other person is expecting may be some quality time or some words of affirmations.

 Why should we know about different languages of love ???

You can make the other person feel eanted only if you know different languages of love .

Languages of love , blo,
FIVE LANGUAGES OF LOVE

According to Gary Chapman, there are five languages of love.

1. Words of appreciation or affirmation

2. Giving or receiving gifts

3.  Acts of service i.e. taking care

4. Quality time

5. Physical touch such as hugs 

Every person has his own language of love. You have to understand the language of other person to make him feel loved. It is like speaking the same language for each other. For this you have to discover his language by putting your language aside.

Sometimes, you may have felt that your wife is never been happy inspite the fact that you are going to market , bringing the groceries or getting the kids ready for the school ,Yet she complains you that you do not love her .It is because you feel loved when other person does this for you.

Your language of love is showing care for other. Not neccesarily ,it is a her language of love also. May be she feel loved when you spent some quality time with her or a small hug from you or a small flower or chocolate.

Discover the love languages of your loved ones.

We need to discover the language of each other. It is not only for married people but with kids too. If you are coming from a foreign tour and have brought  many gifts. You expect you child to be happy but she or he is not. May be he or she was expecting a tight hug ,not the gifts. Understand what the other person expect from you.

How can we make the other person feel loved??

By speaking their language of love .

In a nutshell, what is important to find the language of your loved loves so that you reciprocate the love in same manner and make the other person feel loved by putting your efforts in a right direction.

I am really thankful to  Gary Chapman    who has written such a wonderful book ( 5 languages of Love) that has helped me a lot to understand this concept of love and created a such a positive impact in my life.

Now you can answer to this question if somebody tell you – dear, you do not love me 😐

Tell that– I love you but my way if expressing love is different from you. Please understand .

If the person feels difficult to understand – Show this article and tell him or her to read😉😉

Feel free to share on WhatsApp or facebook or any other social media to make the world understand the languages of love.

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Why explanation?

Quotes, life quotes.
Why explanation every time ???

Why should I ,every time, give explanation to others when they doesn’t matter in my life ? They are not worth for it. Explanation is only for those who loves you and understand you.

Technology,We and Our Relationships

Technology, relationship, quote, life quotes

Unfortunately true…!!! Technology has connected us to those whom we don’t know while created a distance between those who are a part of our life.

And he reached to see her

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He left his home with his father as she used to force her decision on us. She was very particular about her thoughts and believed in the art of living.

Twenty years later he decided to see her after fighting the battle of his life as his father left left him alone for that beautiful lady.

He suddenly started missing her. The life made him realise that she might be strict but had a soft heart who always wanted to see him as smart and  handsome man having a perfect art of living.

He packed his bag with some of her favourite cookies and also bought some lillies for her.

With the dawn of the next day he reached there but he didn’t find her. What he found was an old locked door and same river flowing near by but calmly without any noise.

He left the flowers on the stone and went back. He knew he will never meet her again in this life.

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Daily prompt:particular

Quote of the today – 2

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Never let your love affected by success or failure

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What a coincidence

he got the success

years later

which she wanted for him

few years back…..!

He has no regret now

because he has some one

who can understand him better

Rather than the one

who misunderstood

him few years back..!

Via Daily prompt: coincidence 

BEWARE…BUT WHY?

Hello ….

I have heard that you have many friends…but there is someone special 

Who is always sweet with you

Who gives you a  great importance 

Who  always agrees with you 

Who always understands your emotions 

Who always have emotional talks with you

Who  always appreciates and praises you

Who is always with you in your difficult times

Who always gives you a moral support when you feel low

And suddenly you start feeling …..something special 

THEN BEWARE !!!!

Don’t be an emotional fool. Before considering that person as a companion for your life give a little more  time to yourself to build an opinion about him/her. Judge carefully or later you may regret . 

 If you get hurt by an unknown you may forget but  the pain given by your dear one is difficult to erase from both the mind and the heart💔

 
Via daily prompt: later

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