Damn ! Am I really doing something wrong that is giving me guilt feeling ?? Or someone is just trying to create a situation that better suits to him and helps him to take advantage???
Is this guilt feeling is true ??? Is it a guilt trap ???
There are people in the world who can take advantage of your helpful and humane nature to create their comforts. They are the one who will keep you blaming day and night to such an extent that you will start thinking yourself as a culprit !
Damn ! There are many different personalities around us. What should a person do to combat this situation is the most difficult task . This is the moment when you are struggling with your innerself. Through this post I am going to share few tips and tricks that can provide you a kind of support.
In such a situation, better talk to someone who knows you well. Who can help you to analyse the whole scenerio since beginning.
I hope you find the this post helpful in your struggling or challenging life situation. You are not alone in this world. There are many who are facing the same. Here are the few more ways to come out from false guilt trap. Check it out!
These are the few lines we usually listen being a women. No matter you are a home maker or a working women everybody expect you to be ready with new ideas for kitchen. Even in my family , no one is ready to have dinner straight away. Specially if daal is being cooked , they expect a side dish or some snacks.
Snacks may not be required everyday but at least once in a week they need something new. I too like experimenting in kitchen. Mostly the things comes out well.
Last week I was in kitchen and I had good mood😉 so I thought to try this kebabs and yes ! I was succesful in my experiment. These are quick to make and taste so good. You can try it for your kitty party , kids birthday party or even as evening snacks.
If you are worried what to pack in your kids Tiffin. Try this awesome recipe. Prepare everything at night. Mix it in the morning to make dough and be ready to pack the tiffin.
Boiled Soya granules – 1 cup
Boiled potatoes – 2
Cornflour – 1 tablespoon
Garlic n ginger paste – 1tsp
Chopped green chillies – 1tsp
Red chilly powder – 1/2 tsp
Chaat Masala – 1tsp
Garam Masala – 1tsp
black pepper – 1/2 tsp
Dry coriander powder – 1/2 tsp
Salt to taste
Steps to make
First of all mash the boiled potatoes . Make sure that there are no big pieces.
Add the boiled soya granules.
Add cornflour and all other ingredients to the mixture.
Mix them well and make small flat round balls like the kebabs looks like.
Shallow fry it in non stick pan.
Serve hot with salad and chutney.
Here I have served kebabs with hot n sweet chilly sauce and hung curd dip. You can serve it with green coriander chutney or even with tomato sauce according to the taste.
Recipe notes –
Squeeze out all the water from boiled soya granules .
The dough may be little sticky. Do not worry about. Just put a little drop of oil on your dry hand and make the balls.
There is no need to roll more on hand while shaping.
Instead of shallow frying , you can roast it on non stick pan with few drops of oil to make it more healthier.
I feel having food made at home always make you fuller, satisfied and healthier. Last year I got a chance to study godrej food trends which proves that people prefer to cook food at home because it is hygienic and good for health. Healthy shopping is other way to incorporate health in our family. There are different types of healthy diets which will not only satisfy your hunger but will give peace to your soul too.
So go healthy ! Shop healthy n eat healthy !
Do try this recipe at home and let me know how it comes out.
This is my first attempt to write recipe post. Hope I have put up the things in correct way.
Few days back I saw this question being discussed on the social media. This initiated a thought process in my mind. Does age is an hindrance in the way of making new friends ?(I really want to know what’s your opinion. Do write in comment section in the end of post)
As a child we are always looking for a company to have fun and learn new things. As we grow up , this need of learning new things fades and we start enjoying are own company. Hence we prefer to be happy with what we have. This stands true for friends too. We don’t feel a need for a company .
At young age ,we accept the person as friend as they are without any expectations. We don’t see faults, how they look like , family status even gender. Friends means a person with whom we can be what are.
Age changes are thought process. We become more concerned about outcomes. As a result we find it difficult to get connected with a person emotionally. As the purpose get solved , we move forward leaving behind the friendship.
Getting out from our own comfort zone is a big challenge. Adjustments with other people is not that easy with age.
Like minded people are hard to find. Your thoughts , action , way of living life , your concept of life , food and many more things that connect us with others. It is not easy to get matched.
Social anxiety could be other reason . As an adult facing a society creates a confusion within us. What the society will think about me ? Will I be accepted? Such questions creates a conflict within us. I think we should live for ourselves not for society.
Our past experiences hold us back from making new friends. Once a person had a bad experience always be afraid to start a new one.
Hence there is nothing weird. It is pretty normal. As people grow older they start weaving a layer after layer around themselves. Reaching to them , crossing through those layers is difficult for another person. These layers act as an insulation which does not allow the new people to reach at your heart.
What is your opinion about it? Are you a person who can make friends at any age or age restrict you to make friends in older age???
What does the perfect time means? Does the perfect time really exist ? Or it is a state of mind which creates it ?
Every single second is a replica of the other second. These exactly the same 60 seconds make a minute which in turn make hours , days, weeks, months and so on. The control on this small identity of time is unaltered and beyond the control of our capacities. Every single second is Perfect by its own. Then why do we keep looking for that perfect time ? Is the moment in which you are living and witnessing is imperfect ? If you ask this question to yourself ,the reply you will get somewhere from the core of your heart is – NO.
It is we who are unable to understand the nature and power of time. It is we who are lacking in terms of efforts or attitude. Our inhibitions and insecurity is leading to give such results and keeping us away from making this moment perfect.
How can we make this moment perfect to start with? Why are we keep on waiting for that perfect moment ? Why are we doubtful about this present moment ?
We should not waste your time and energy for waiting the moment which is yet to come. Start with what you have just now with you. You are the creator of your future. You are the one who has a magic to make your dreams come true. Start making your perfect moments now. This is the perfect time to make your life what you have dreamt of.
How can you make this moment a Perfect moment ?
Every person has his own secrets to unwrap the success or happiness in his life. The formula which has worked for me may or may not work for you. There is no closed door to the better future , only the ways to open it may be different . The treasure is just under your feet. You have to start digging just now. Some may get it in few feet down the earth or others may have to go little deep. The later you start , the more time you have to wait.
I am listing here few ways to start with. Try it to make this moment the perfect moment.
Start believing in yourself
The very first step is to start believing in yourself and in your efforts. People may raise doubts about you and even your ideas. They may see you as worthless. Don’t get disheartened. Believe me , They are ignorants as they can’t see your mind and your planning.
Weave your thoughts
There are many thoughts and ideas which keep on popping up in your mind. Before these valuable strings in mind get entangled , write it down. At first these may appear bit confusing . Later you can sort out them one by one according to your goal.
Work upon thepathways
There are many different roads to reach at one destination. Study the map carefully to choose right path. It may possible that the road has still not built to your destination. No worries. Make a new one. It will not only be beneficial to you but for others too.
Read and research
Read some books. It can be a motivational book , a success story , a biography or a travelogue. Every book has a lesson for life and a way to solve the mystery of hidden truths. Research the topic online and offline both. Listen the people carefully. You can get a lots of ideas to make your that moment perfect.
Don’t be afraid of failure
I always believe that failure are the stepping stones to success. Do not be afraid to fail. Take a example of the famous Bollywood actor Amitabh Bacchan who once wanted to leave Bombay ( presently Mumbai ) thinking that this city is not meant for him. Look at he destiny, the same city made him a well known personality in the world. He has faced the failures many a times but did not stop.
People will criticise you for your actions. Accept it as a part of your success story. The one who are criticising you today will be your admirers one day. Deeply go through those words and sentence. Analyse and interpret to see whether they are worth for. Keep your attitude with you.
Be ready with plan A, B or C
Make a plan A and start doing planning on a paper. Write its pros and cons. If it works well , good but if it isn’t ? Make sure you have plan in your hand. Never ever think to stop on the way. Keep on going till you achieve what you want to.
Education can bring the desired change in the future. If you want to shape the future shape the education system accordingly. Teachers , parents and management are the three main poles holding the students from each side. They will go whenever these poles will lead to. Hence we have to take the responsibility very wisely.
Last year an initiative has been taken to analyse the present Education System through interviews and survey( Click here to participate ) Even the educators from Finland educators have joined this initiative. Today’s blog will bring the thoughts of an enthusiastic teacher and blogger Sakshi on her views on Present education system.
Journeysays – Hi Sakshi , tell us something about yourself as a person and a blogger ?
Ans. As a person I’m an ambivert , sarcastic , definitely fun-loving , enthusiast , optimistic and I must say this list won’t end so in short , I’m a perfect blogger personality .
Journeysays- Are you happy with the present Education System ?Why or why not ?
Ans. Happy won’t be the exact word . Mixed thoughts define it perfectly . There are both advantages and disadvantages to this education system . Some of the disadvantages are
focus is not on the all round development of both physical and mental body of a child
Focus is given to the certification process like report card and marks that finally , actually don’t showcase the true abilities of the child .
The system of judging is same for everyone . But every child is not having the same in abilities . Here there is a broad difference between what should be done and what we shouldn’t do .
The course of students is more theoretical and is based on knowledge that would actually not help them in future . Basically the years you spent to get that metric pass or else just in the end remains a certificate without actual knowledge .
And lack of practical knowledge creates a region of unawareness where when they face competition on the international level , there confidence is compromised .
In this system of education , salaries of teachers are so low that even being considered the best , students ranks it last choice in their career option list.
The school system is lot becoming like a spoon feeding ground . Just a recent change in cbse stated that in lower classes , a student can be promoted to next class even if they have failed in previous section .
The focus of higher education system in more on obtaining the degree than on research .
Journeysays- Why do parents in India still after the professions like doctors or engineers
Ans . Because there is no career security in other professions . These two job profiles fulfill all the requirements for a must option like , good salary package , respect , confirm job placement , demand for the these officials . After all parents wish for a secured profession . And these two are secured in many ways .
Journeysays- Your recommendation at various levels of education ?
1 . Practical and theoretical knowledge should be given equal importance .
2. Research work should be encouraged .
3. Career security should be offered and more and more skill based subjects must be introduced .
4 . By doing a single board in India , like Icse board will be better .
5. Nowadays there is too much pressure on students . Education is no pain , curriculum should be set in way that it’s fun and interesting . Not something to suffer from . But something to learn and experience .
Journeysays- Define Sakshi – as a teacher , as a student , as a parent (keeping education as a center point )?
Ans. As a teacher , I’m not-at-all a strict teacher . I like fun , interactive classes . New ideas and new ways of learning are always welcomed .
As a student , I’m a first bencher who curiously pens down every piece of information a good teacher ( I love lectures of ) tries to teach . Even in class I like regular study routines . Love to research too about topics discussed in class .
As a parent , which I’m not right now but I will try to make my kid to give value to education . I will be supportive to choose whatever there creative intuition may take them to . I’m a person who lives life based on interest . So I will try to impart that choose the subject or the field your passion is in .
Journeysays-These days children prefer to go abroad for higher education after 12th . What could be the reason for it ? Where are we lacking in terms of education ?
Ans. Because there is scope for a great future . Abroad there are additional benefits , high salaries , encouraging environment for honest working , job security , career security hence financial security , even if you are not in a specific job , doing research work .
Journeysays- What inspired you to get associated with this project ?
Ans . Education is something more than important to improve right now . And in anyway , be it discussions ,by teaching myself and keeping my opinions strongly , I’m ready for it always . I’m a more than happy to participate again , yes second time in such a wonderful initiative . Even last year I participated my answers are much more better this time because this year I experienced teaching kids myself .
Journeysays-How do you feel about this project and about my blog ?
Ans . Thanks a lot and million times to include me in this great initiative . Your blog is an inspiration . I would always love to be a part of your projects and initiatives . This is the blog that actually makes me to realize that working on social issues and spreading knowledge about it is so important . I am thankful to Ms Arora for always printing these innovation ideas discussing specifically about education .
I must thank you for putting up your perspective about present Education System which needs to be modified according to the requirements of the students and future. She has always been very supportive and active in all aspects.
To face the every situation in life , you need strength. People in life can support you and help you to recognise the inner strength hidden in you. Only you can understand this hidden power of you and bring it out.
Happiness is when I answer a question in the class Happiness is when I get answer of my question… Happiness is when I get a star in my notebook Happiness is when I get a pat on my back….. Happiness is when She calls out my name Happiness is when She appreciates my way… Happiness is when When I enter in class Happiness is when When I forget my flaws….
Let the children give the opportunities in the classroom to develop their happiness quotient.
Small efforts , few words can make their world magical . Here are few tips to develop happiness quotient of your children along with Emotional quotient and Intelligence quotient.